Excuses

How to Use Them POSITIVELY

When we are told we are making excuses, I say Shut Up to that now.

Nonsense…that word got a bad reputation and its time to make it useful and powerful.

Excuses can be positive it matters what is attached to the word.

Here are some examples : )

I hang out only with people who resonate with me

That’s what I want to say when Im faced with an invitation that is less than ideal for my energy.

BUT, you know I will say it in my inner voice and use something more generic.

“I have plans…its not something I want to do…I don’t like that atmosphere.

That’s not empowering.

Sure, the first statement still an excuse but it doesn’t come will all the GUILT and SHAME of hiding what is meaningful to me.

HOw would that person respond when faced with such a genuine statement about my needs rather than the generic…”I have plans..what self loathing, resurrecting guilt meditations, unforeseen obligations…those are EXCUSES.

That is the hardest part…being true to your own needs.

That is SElf Empowerment.

I will be BRAVE and start invoking this mind set. See what kind of domino effect it has.

Writing this out has helped me anchor this truth and it will start with people I trust, who won’t judge me at first.

Ahhh, so that reveals a fear..Judgement.

If I trust these “friends” then they understand or want to understand my orientation.

As for me and my fear…let it go. If they aren’t going to understand. I didn’t need them in my life.

What I realize even more is that I don’t need to explain to anyone but myself.

Hugs n Kisses and All the Best Wishes!

CAm